Little to no social skill?

Social Interaction

From what I've noticed many of the people I know/have seen that are good with computers ( as is above average good ) have poor social skill, myself included.

You see I read an article the other day about people losing social interaction because of computers when I finished reading it I realized that I could probably explain a lot more to a person about any one of my online handles than I could about my actual name.:right:

Not to sound at all egotistic or anything but I know that girls are interested in me, sometimes I try to talk to them and usually mess up anything that could've ever been. It has gotten to the point where I honestly have no interest in trying to talk to anybody. I am a huge loner, I come to school and most of the time find myself with just that, myself. As depressing as this may seem I've gotten used to it ( I think :|) What do you guys think, I just started thinking about not to long ago and this an off-topic forum so yeah! :happy:

Lol, some of my friends from school are computer nerds as well, so I talk to them on the internet, then also talk to them in person, and everything works out just fine :)

I wish our school was like that in a town w/ pop-5000

Ehh, dude I'm like ugly and fat and I love computers and I have like 5-6 good friends..lol

Don't feel bad about being lonely, at least your not 250lbs xD

Im ok, i never had any luck with girls though to be honest, i have a small group of friends i hang round with at school, and then another group i hang out with on the internet and that. they still goto my school but the 2 groups dont reli like each other 2 much, My best mates are also on here and were really similar so we get on fine.

Perhaps you should try like talking to the new kid, or finding someone that has similar interests to you, there must be someone somewher in your school.

I've actually found myself to be quite social when I want to be. But it ain't that great. My luck with girls majorly sucks. It's all a matter of confidence, I think.

A great way to be social as a hacker or whatever is to go to a lan party. Be sure to bring a headphone with a mic and you'll find yourself making friends in no time. :)

I'm fairly relaxed, I get on with most people, except chavs, they seem to hate anyone that doesn't wear burbery and smell like cigarettes…

I agree with system… For some reason people (except chavs, who hate me) like me… I have a hot girlfriend and a few close friends (not much but I don't like being in a large group, it makes me nervous (and yes I suppose that does make me a nerd))… I suppose it's because I live in the middle of nowhere, I'm seen as sociable when I spend all my time on internet because it means I can talk to people outside school

Well…i can't say i have a hot girlfriend, but i can't say that i haven't made out with a hot girl ;)

I get along with most of the people in my school. I have no problems relaxing and hardly get embarrased about stuff in school.

Well.. personally I don't think it's anything to worry about really. Computers are something you (and many others) enjoy, so if it happens to interfere with your social life then, fuck it lol :p It's what YOU want really, it's your choice.. I have quite a few friends, quite a few enemies, and I can say that im pretty ok with it.. I'm not the most sociable person either.. I don't like being in large groups of people I don't know but thats who I am, and I like it. Sounds kind of screwed-up but basically whoever isn't my friend is almost like an enemy to me, in the way that I kind of tell them to piss off , through my actions towards them.. my level of 'socialism' varies depending on my mood i guess..

** EDIT ** - Holy crap.. that was poorly written, but to sum up what I was saying: It's not that people 'lack' social skills, the skills are there, just, you might not feel like using them / be bothered to use them.

i dont think being interested with computers and being social have anthing in common.

forgive me for sounding egosticitle, but i shall say this for the sake of the discussion.

i've been intrested in computers for as long as i remmeber and interested in hacking for the last 3 years.

i have a excellent group of friends and even larger social circle (and forgive me from sounding like a twat), i jump from girl to girl usally.

i've never found that being a computer nerd means you have no social life, it all dpeends on the person. and i think its kinda the other way round. if you have little friends and not much of a social life, i think maybe then you'll turn to a computer and develop computer skills. but thats the only relationship i see.

i've been known to me frends for the last 2 years and if theres anything computer related you want done, to contact me. "i got a problem with ms outlook", "is my gf cheating on my. please dan help me out, find out if she is", etc etc my friends at some point have asked me to help them on various situations and i find it gives more of a social attraction if your friends know you as a "hacker" i think its deffo more of an attraction for new potential friends etc.

so in conclusion: poor social life -> computer nerd, and internet geek computer nerd != poor social life.

forgive the stereotypes (internet geek / computer nerd), just using them for the sake of this discussion.

but then again, poor social life doesnt mean you dont have friends and a good time. since my hbh time i've made some excellent friends who i really trust and have a great relationship with… and i've never met them! (grindordie for instance). you can also have a great selection of friends online aswell as offline.

Cheese has seen me in public before, with cube, I don't think, from my attitude and the way I dress etc, that if you saw me walking you'd think I spend my entire life on a pc, did you think that when you saw me cheese, or did you think I was just some regular guy?

lol, im sound… not a chav but not a skater goth (w/e you call it these days, "emo") im just me…

i hav alota friends and i feel sorry for you… if i went to ur skl id let u mix in wid me :p! i dont look like i spend alot of my time on my computer at all ..

well usualy im out playin footie or sumthing and i leave my comp on so i can pick up all the msgs from msn etc…

do u get bullyd? Fortunatly iv never been bullyd in my entire life, could be becus i always have people i know that are older than me.

system_meltdown wrote: Cheese has seen me in public before, with cube, I don't think, from my attitude and the way I dress etc, that if you saw me walking you'd think I spend my entire life on a pc, did you think that when you saw me cheese, or did you think I was just some regular guy?

i agree with system if u saw me walking around u wouldnt suspect i loved comptuers, i have alot of friends and a (exish) gf, i dress in hollister and i talk to everyone in school, idc who they are, i talk to the 'kool' kids the 'chavs (?)' and to the 'nerds'

i have friends in every social group really, at my school no one really cares who you talk to. everyone knows i love computers.

but i'd rather be on the computer then have friends lol, i dont get to get on that much ne more cuz my friends r getting in the way of my comptuer time :D

if i was you i'd just start talkin to ppl, thats how i meet alot of ppl, just randomly talkin to them, if they dont like you for who you are then fuck them you dont need to be friends with thtem

rockbll4 wrote: but i'd rather be on the computer then have friends lol, i dont get to get on that much ne more cuz my friends r getting in the way of my comptuer time :D

lol hope you were joking there ;) friends are much more important than a computer in my opinion

lol hope you were joking there ;) friends are much more important than a computer in my opinion

lol i have a bunch of friends and dont get to get on that much, so i miss getting on :D

i dont get to program as much

there used to be this bully in my school so i just became great friends with him so it stopped being a problem

Folk Theory wrote: there used to be this bully in my school so i just became great friends with him so it stopped being a problem

if u kick his ass he wont be a problem ;)

rockbll4 wrote: [quote]Folk Theory wrote: there used to be this bully in my school so i just became great friends with him so it stopped being a problem

if u kick his ass he wont be a problem ;)[/quote]

too right lol… but now you were friends with this bully, has that given yuo a "bully status"… cos thats a bad thing

Folk Theory wrote: there used to be this bully in my school so i just became great friends with him so it stopped being a problem

well thats one way to deal with it. when i got bullied as a youngster i beat the kids up using a guitar. when when i was bullied a bit when i was a teen, i put the kid in hospital… i found that a much more effective way of dealing with it.

but each to there own, as long as it works its ok :)